i love you

‘I love you’ is a common words that we can hear from everybody. It makes me think, how do love play its role and what is love really mean. I’ve read some articles about love, and most of all i agreed with them. And i wanna share something too. It happened just yesterday, when my wife and i were finished shopping for the kitchen things. I heard her sighing and i asked why. She told me that she had this 5 bestfriends in secondary school back in 2003. And one of them had a huge problems according to that friend of hers. She texted all of them including my wife to borrow their money, and said that she will be returning back the money this coming Friday. Unfortunately, we only have some money to survive for this month and my wife told her that she couldn’t lend her the money. And then suddenly her facial expression was changed while reading the text out. “Thought we were friends, i am so sad that she posted my message in the group.” My wife looked at me, shocked. “Who is she that my friend is talking about? Maybe i should scroll back the message in my group.” My wife has this attitude of saying out what she plans to do next, that’s why i know what is she gonna do. “Oh, another bestfriend of mine was the one who has screenshot their conversation and post it my group. And she scolded her for asking money, what is her intention of doing this? Does she really knows what is her friend is going through? If she doesn’t want to help her, just say something nice instead. And not wishing Christmas to anyone in her bad day, is something common. This is immature type of friendships.” I could see how upset my wife was. And then all of her other bestfriends started to post theirs too. Except for my wife. That friend left the group. I sat beside my wife while watching her replying her friend’s post in their group. This is what she wrote: “ sorry for everything. I don’t knoq what happened to her too. She had asked me the same questions, but i think we are the only friends she had right now. I can’t lend her that much too, but i still lend her my shoulder. We’re friends right, sometimes we’ll think that way when we don’t have any other choice. Just remember her in our prayer. And remember that everybody has their own problems too. I’m not choosing to be on her side but i choose what i think is wise.” My wife was sad, she was really down at that time and I don’t know what to do. Few minutes later, some of her friends replied her. “If she told us what is her problem, that should be better.” And another answered them “for me, everybody has our own problems, and we have family too, if it was about money matter, this is a big issue. In our own family we had money issues too, and to ask for money again and again is not normal anymore. Her post in facebook looks like she seems quite rich.” My wife turned to me and then started to ignore their friend’s message. “Kayau, they don’t know what is it to be in debts. They used to say this i love you words in their post in the group. Easy to say, easy to write or type it down. But hard to believe. A small issue has become this big and the friendships seems to broke down into pieces. Is this  what i love was all about?”